We decided to try something new and embarked on a winter in Montana.
Five months later, we are still just in awe of Big Sky Country.
Montana has been hailed a the “Last Best Place” and the “Treasure State,” and it’s easy to see why. The views, the attitudes (or lack thereof), the outdoor lifestyle, the breathing room– and especially that big, big sky. Driving through Montana for the first time on the way to Canada was scenic if only to watch how long the sky holds the light after the sun ducks behind the land.
So on the way back down, we decided simply to stay. We rented an apartment and moved ourselves on in for the ski season.
Montana has come with a lot of realizations: personal, professional, interpersonal, material- on some levels even spiritual. There was something we were looking for on Long Island that just didn’t exist; would it exist out here?
To a large extent, yes. I love my NYers, but we aren’t a hospitable bunch. Montanans are kinder, more open to interaction, more keen to the humorous moments of everyday life. Overall, it seems, they’re more satisfied, truly happier. Is this what you get when you leave the rat race?
Median incomes in Bozeman, a cosmopolitan area compared to the rest of the state that’s currently experiencing rapid growth, are about $48k/year. Somehow, everyone seems to be driving $60k trucks and affording the rather expensive outdoor hobbies. The gear-lust out here is something fierce, but not something necessarily competitive. People can’t wait to get their hands on new skis, or a new snowmobile, or new fishing gear… but because they generally live for these experiences; not because So-and-So just bought it. Median incomes in Suffolk County, NY are $90k/year. And we CANNOT WAIT to get our hands on somesuch car, or take this trip, or give our kids this experience – almost exclusively so we can go tell So-and-So. Why are we making twice as much and half as happy?
I do think that as an unmarried, well-educated 20-something, I begin to feel much of the, as I call it, “white collar pressure” of staying on Long Island. How WOULD I afford a home and a good life here if I didn’t enter some more prestigious career? It is a thought that can drive you crazy when you’re just looking for experience under your belt before settling down and making (debt-incurring) life decisions. Or… it can drive you to Montana to put it off for another year. 😉
And that is how we ended up out here, trying this space out. Trying space out- from the coasts and forks we love on LI, from our families and friends, from our HEAVY New York City influence. Catching a little breathing room 4800 feet above sea level.



